REP 2013-14 Season Spotlight
Resident Ensemble Players producing artistic director, Sanford Robbins, briefly talks about each play in the upcoming 2013-14 season and describes what REP audiences will find exciting and entertaining.
Clybourne Park: Changing the Set
See our crew make a massive set change in the 15 minute intermission for Bruce Norris' Clybourne Park!
National Agenda 2018: Midterm Matters with Gabe Fleisher
Sponsored by the Center for Political Communication at the University of Delaware, the 2018 National Agenda Speaker Series featured teen journalist, Gabe Fleisher, who writes a daily political newsletter that reaches more than 50,000 subscribers. The event was cosponsored by the Department of Political Science and International Relations. The Series is moderated by Dr. Lindsay Hoffman. Visit for more info.
Playing the Villain: Mic Matarrese on becoming Tartuffe
Tartuffe runs April 20 - May 7, 2017.
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The Cast of The Millionairess
Check out the cast of the REP's production of THE MILLIONAIRESS!
The Millionairess
by George Bernard Shaw
Directed by Ian Belknap
January 22 - February 8, 2015
NJN Petty's Run Broadcast
NJN vists the site of an archaeological investigation in Trenton, New Jersey
2018 STEM Career Showcase for Students with Disabilities
The STEM Career Showcase for Students with Disabilities is an annual educational event where attendees meet role models with disabilities who have thriving careers in STEM fields.
Our keynote speaker for 2018 is Dr. Caroline Solomon, professor of Biology at Gallaudet University and currently the University Faculty Chair. With a BA in Environmental Science and Public Policy from Harvard University, a M.S. in Biological Oceanography from the University of Washington, and a PhD in Biological Oceanography from the University of Maryland, her interactive approach to teaching has earned Solomon many accolades and awards, including being named one of National Public Radio’s 50 Great Teachers in 2015. Her past research projects include the ASL-STEM forum that provides ASL signs for science lexicon. She serves on masters and doctoral committees for research to increase participation of deaf and hard of hearing people in STEM and estuarine science. Dr. Solomon, who is deaf, will share her inspiring story of successfully navigating an academic and professional path to Gallaudet University.
REP actress Kathleen Pirkl Tague on playing Vivian Bearing, Ph.D in WIT
REP actress Kathleen Pirkl Tague discusses playing Vivian Bearing, Ph.D in the Resident Ensemble Players' production of Margaret Edson's Pulitzer Prize-winning play WIT.
Lynching in the United States | Wikipedia audio article
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Lynching in the United States
00:03:30 1 Background
00:07:58 2 Name origin
00:08:28 3 Social characteristics
00:11:32 4 The West
00:14:42 5 Reconstruction (1865–1877)
00:18:48 6 Disenfranchisement (1877–1917)
00:23:19 6.1 Other ethnicities
00:26:20 6.2 Enforcing Jim Crow
00:33:30 7 Photographic records and postcards
00:38:22 7.1 Resistance
00:41:43 7.2 Federal action limited by the Solid South
00:44:53 7.3 Great Migration
00:46:53 8 World War I to World War II
00:47:04 8.1 Resistance
00:48:11 8.2 New Klan
00:51:26 8.3 Continuing resistance
00:57:00 8.4 Federal action and southern resistance
01:00:34 9 World War II to present
01:00:44 9.1 Second Great Migration
01:01:41 9.2 Federal action
01:03:36 9.3 Lynching and the Cold War
01:05:13 9.4 Civil Rights Movement
01:08:32 9.5 After the Civil Rights Movement
01:11:48 10 Effects
01:12:29 11 Statistics
01:18:30 12 Representation in popular culture
01:18:41 12.1 Literature and film
01:24:52 12.2 Strange Fruit
01:26:05 13 Laws
01:29:31 13.1 State laws
01:33:32 14 See also
01:33:41 15 Notes
01:33:49 16 Books and references
01:39:24 17 Further reading
01:43:36 18 External links
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Lynching is the practice of murder by a group by extrajudicial action. Lynchings in the United States rose in number after the American Civil War in the late 1800s, following the emancipation of slaves; they declined in the 1920s but have continued to take place into the 21st century. Most lynchings were of African-American men in the South, but women were also lynched, and white lynchings of blacks occurred in Midwestern and border states, especially during the 20th-century Great Migration of blacks out of the South. The purpose was to enforce white supremacy and intimidate blacks by racial terrorism. On a per capita basis lynchings were also common in California and the Old West, especially of Latinos, although they represented less than 10% of the national total. Native Americans and Asian Americans were also lynched. Other ethnicities (white, Finnish-American, Jewish, Irish, Italian-American) were occasionally lynched.
The stereotype of a lynching is a hanging, because hangings are what crowds of people saw, and are also easy to photograph. Some hangings were professionally photographed and sold as postcards, which were popular souvenirs in some parts of the U.S. Victims were also killed by mobs in a variety of other ways: shot repeatedly, burned alive, forced to jump off a bridge, dragged behind cars, and the like. Sometimes they were tortured as well, with body parts sometimes removed and sold as souvenirs. Occasionally lynchings were not fatal (see Lynching survivors in the United States). A mock lynching, putting the rope around the neck of someone suspected of concealing information, might be used to compel confessions.According to the Tuskegee Institute, 4,743 people were lynched between 1882 and 1968 in the United States, including 3,446 African Americans and 1,297 whites. More than 73 percent of lynchings in the post-Civil War period occurred in the Southern states. According to the Equal Justice Initiative, 4,084 African-Americans were lynched between 1877 and 1950 in the South.Lynchings were most frequent from 1890 to the 1920s, with a peak in 1892. Lynchings were often large mob actions, attended by hundreds or thousands of watchers, sometimes announced in advance in newspapers and in one instance with a special train. However, in the later 20th century lynchings became more secretive, and were conducted by smaller groups of people.
According to Michael Pfeifer, the prevalence of lynching in postbellum America reflects lack of confidence in the due process judicial system. He links the decline in lynching in the early twentieth century with the advent of the modern death penalty: legislators renovated the death penalty...out of direct concern for the alternative of mob violence. He also cites the modern, racialized excesses of u ...
Adam Philipson, Robyn Goodman, Jennifer T. Nersesian
Steve Adubato goes one-on-one with Adam Philipson, president & CEO of the Count Basie Theatre talking about the theatre’s rich history and future plans.
Bucks County Playhouse Executive Producer Robyn Goodman talks with Steve Adubato about this theater's amazing past and its bright future in beautiful New Hope, PA.
Before the Jersey shore's Sandy Hook was a beach-goers paradise, Fort Hancock provided vital coastal defense for New York Harbor. National Park Service Superintendent Jennifer T. Nersesian shares how you can become part of Fort Hancock's future.
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Indianapolis | Wikipedia audio article
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- Socrates
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Indianapolis () is the capital and most populous city of the U.S. state of Indiana and the seat of Marion County. As of 2017, Indianapolis is the third most populous city in the American Midwest and 16th most populous in the U.S., with an estimated population of 863,002. The Indianapolis metropolitan area is the 34th most populous metropolitan statistical area in the U.S., with 2,028,614 residents. Its combined statistical area ranks 27th, with a population of 2,411,086. Indianapolis covers 368 square miles (950 km2), making it the 16th largest city by land area in the U.S.
Indigenous peoples inhabited the area dating to approximately 2000 BC. In 1818, the Delaware relinquished title to their tribal lands in the Treaty of St. Mary's. In 1821, Indianapolis was founded as a planned city for the new seat of Indiana's state government. The city was platted by Alexander Ralston and Elias Pym Fordham on a 1 square mile (2.6 km2) grid adjacent to the White River. Completion of the National and Michigan roads and arrival of rail (1847) later solidified the city's position as a manufacturing and transportation hub. Two of the city's nicknames originate from its historical ties to transportation—the Crossroads of America and Railroad City.Indianapolis anchors the 27th largest economic region in the U.S., based primarily on the sectors of finance and insurance, manufacturing, professional and business services, education and health care, government, and wholesale trade. Indianapolis has developed niche markets in amateur sports and auto racing. The city is perhaps best known for annually hosting the world's largest single-day sporting event, the Indianapolis 500. Indianapolis has hosted international multi-sport events such as the 1987 Pan American Games and 2001 World Police and Fire Games.
Indianapolis is home to two major sports clubs, the Indiana Pacers of the National Basketball Association and the Indianapolis Colts of the National Football League. The city's philanthropic community has helped develop its cultural institutions and collections, including the world's largest children's museum, one of the nation's largest privately funded zoos,
historic buildings and sites, and public art. Indianapolis is home to a significant collection of monuments dedicated to veterans and war casualties, the most in the U.S. outside of Washington, D.C. Since the 1970 city-county consolidation, known as Unigov, local government administration operates under the direction of an elected 25-member city-county council headed by the mayor. Indianapolis is considered a high sufficiency world city.
HOBY Alumni Achievement Award Honoree : Brian Selander
HOBY is proud to honor Brian Selander with the Alumni Achievement Award at the 57th Anniversary Albert Schweitzer Leadership Awards Gala.
Before he turned 30, Brian Selander helped build Silver Oak Solutions, a multi-million dollar consulting firm; served as National Director of a practice area at the multi-billion dollar company, CGI; served as Communications Director for United States Senator Tom Carper; and worked as a Presidential Campaign Aide for Democrat Bill Bradley, a state legislative staffer, and a print reporter.
Mr. Selander has since served as the Chief Strategy Officer for Governor Jack Markell of Delaware and helped launch the Whistle Sports Network, where he is currently Executive Vice President for External Affairs. Fast Company magazine named Whistle Sports one of the 10 most innovative companies in the world for video. In its first 14 months, the company grew its audience to more than 65 million fans, followers, and subscribers across multiple digital platforms.
Mr. Selander graduated with highest honors from Rutgers University and earned a master’s degree at the University of Pennsylvania, where for several years he co-taught a graduate seminar. He completed the Senior Executive Fellows Program at the Harvard Kennedy School and serves on the board of the Harvard Alumni Entrepreneurs. Mr. Selander is an alum of the 1992 HOBY World Leadership Congress and New Jersey State Leadership Seminar.
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Indianapolis | Wikipedia audio article
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00:03:49 1 History
00:03:58 1.1 Etymology
00:04:30 1.2 Founding
00:08:13 1.3 Civil War and Gilded Age
00:11:33 1.4 Modern Indianapolis
00:15:48 2 Geography
00:17:54 2.1 Cityscape
00:21:49 2.2 Neighborhoods
00:24:23 2.3 Climate
00:27:09 3 Demographics
00:32:58 3.1 Religion
00:35:18 4 Economy
00:42:48 5 Culture and contemporary life
00:44:19 5.1 Visual arts
00:46:24 5.2 Performing arts
00:49:51 5.3 Literature
00:51:38 5.4 Attractions
00:55:18 5.5 Cuisine
00:58:30 6 Sports
01:04:39 6.1 Motorsports
01:06:15 7 Parks and recreation
01:09:20 8 Government and politics
01:12:18 8.1 Public safety
01:14:44 8.2 Crime
01:16:05 8.3 Politics
01:17:59 9 Education
01:18:08 9.1 Colleges and universities
01:20:20 9.2 Schools and libraries
01:21:30 10 Media
01:24:15 11 Transportation
01:25:49 11.1 Roads and highways
01:26:45 11.2 Mass transit
01:28:54 11.3 Airports
01:30:08 11.4 Active and shared mobility
01:31:20 12 Healthcare
01:34:44 13 Utilities
01:36:31 14 Notable people
01:36:40 15 International relations
01:36:50 15.1 Sister cities
01:38:07 15.2 Consulates
01:38:29 16 See also
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Indianapolis (), often shortened to Indy, is the state capital and most populous city of the U.S. state of Indiana and the seat of Marion County. According to 2017 estimates from the U.S. Census Bureau, the consolidated population of Indianapolis and Marion County was 872,680. The balance population, which excludes semi-autonomous municipalities in Marion County, was 863,002. It is the 16th most populous city in the U.S. The Indianapolis metropolitan area is the 34th most populous metropolitan statistical area in the U.S., with 2,028,614 residents. Its combined statistical area ranks 27th, with a population of 2,411,086. Indianapolis covers 368 square miles (950 km2), making it the 16th largest city by land area in the U.S.
Indigenous peoples inhabited the area dating to approximately 2000 BC. In 1818, the Delaware relinquished their tribal lands in the Treaty of St. Mary's. In 1821, Indianapolis was founded as a planned city for the new seat of Indiana's state government. The city was platted by Alexander Ralston and Elias Pym Fordham on a 1 square mile (2.6 km2) grid next to the White River. Completion of the National and Michigan roads and arrival of rail later solidified the city's position as a manufacturing and transportation hub. Two of the city's nicknames reflect its historical ties to transportation—the Crossroads of America and Railroad City. Since the 1970 city-county consolidation, known as Unigov, local government administration operates under the direction of an elected 25-member city-county council headed by the mayor.
Indianapolis anchors the 27th largest economic region in the U.S., based primarily on the sectors of finance and insurance, manufacturing, professional and business services, education and health care, government, and wholesale trade. The city has notable niche markets in amateur sports and auto racing. The Fortune 500 companies of Anthem, Eli Lilly and Company and Simon Property Group are headquartered in Indianapolis. The city has hosted many international multi-sport events, such as the 1987 Pan American Games and 2001 World Police and Fire Games, but is perhaps best known for annually hosting the world's largest single-day sporting event, the Indianapolis 500.Indianapolis is home to two major league sports clubs, the Indiana Pacers of the National Basketball Association (NBA) and the Indianapolis Colts of the National Football League (NFL). It is home to a number of educational institutions, such as the University of Indianapolis, Butler University, Marian University, and Indiana University – Purdue University Indianapolis (IUPUI). The city's robust philanthropic communi ...
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Indianapolis | Wikipedia audio article
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00:03:14 1 History
00:03:23 1.1 Etymology
00:03:54 1.2 Founding
00:07:26 1.3 Civil War and Gilded Age
00:10:36 1.4 Modern Indianapolis
00:14:44 2 Geography
00:16:47 2.1 Cityscape
00:20:32 2.2 Neighborhoods
00:22:58 2.3 Climate
00:25:37 3 Demographics
00:31:21 3.1 Religion
00:33:36 4 Economy
00:40:38 5 Culture and contemporary life
00:42:08 5.1 Visual arts
00:44:15 5.2 Performing arts
00:47:38 5.3 Literature
00:49:22 5.4 Attractions
00:52:52 5.5 Cuisine
00:55:53 6 Sports
01:01:47 6.1 Motorsports
01:03:18 7 Parks and recreation
01:06:14 8 Government and politics
01:09:05 8.1 Public safety
01:11:23 8.2 Crime
01:12:40 8.3 Politics
01:14:28 9 Education
01:14:37 9.1 Colleges and universities
01:16:43 9.2 Schools and libraries
01:17:50 10 Media
01:20:34 11 Transportation
01:22:00 11.1 Roads and highways
01:22:55 11.2 Mass transit
01:24:57 11.3 Airports
01:26:09 11.4 Active and shared mobility
01:27:38 12 Healthcare
01:30:49 13 Utilities
01:32:34 14 Notable people
01:32:43 15 International relations
01:32:53 15.1 Sister cities
01:34:06 15.2 Consulates
01:34:28 16 See also
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Indianapolis (), often shortened to Indy, is the capital and most populous city of the U.S. state of Indiana and the seat of Marion County. As of 2017, Indianapolis is the third most populous city in the American Midwest and 16th most populous in the U.S., with an estimated population of 863,002. The Indianapolis metropolitan area is the 34th most populous metropolitan statistical area in the U.S., with 2,028,614 residents. Its combined statistical area ranks 27th, with a population of 2,411,086. Indianapolis covers 368 square miles (950 km2), making it the 16th largest city by land area in the U.S.
Indigenous peoples inhabited the area dating to approximately 2000 BC. In 1818, the Delaware relinquished title to their tribal lands in the Treaty of St. Mary's. In 1821, Indianapolis was founded as a planned city for the new seat of Indiana's state government. The city was platted by Alexander Ralston and Elias Pym Fordham on a 1 square mile (2.6 km2) grid adjacent to the White River. Completion of the National and Michigan roads and arrival of rail (1847) later solidified the city's position as a manufacturing and transportation hub. Two of the city's nicknames originate from its historical ties to transportation—the Crossroads of America and Railroad City.Indianapolis anchors the 27th largest economic region in the U.S., based primarily on the sectors of finance and insurance, manufacturing, professional and business services, education and health care, government, and wholesale trade. Indianapolis has developed niche markets in amateur sports and auto racing. The city is perhaps best known for annually hosting the world's largest single-day sporting event, the Indianapolis 500. Indianapolis has hosted international multi-sport events such as the 1987 Pan American Games and 2001 World Police and Fire Games.
Indianapolis is home to two major sports clubs, the Indiana Pacers of the National Basketball Association and the Indianapolis Colts of the National Football League. The city's philanthropic community has helped develop its cultural institutions and collections, including the world's largest children's museum, one of the nation's largest privately funded zoos,
historic buildings and sites, and public art. Indianapolis is home to a significant collection of monuments dedicated to veterans and war casualties, the most in the U.S. outside of Washington, D.C. Since the 1970 city-county consolidation, known as Unigov, local government administration operates under the direction of an elected 25-member city-county council headed by the mayor. Indianapolis is considered a high sufficiency world city.
Italian Americans | Wikipedia audio article
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Italian Americans
00:02:45 1 History
00:02:54 1.1 Early period (1492–1775)
00:07:08 1.2 War of Independence to Civil War (1775–1861)
00:11:39 1.3 Civil War and after (1861–90)
00:14:44 1.4 The period of mass immigration (1890–1920)
00:27:26 1.5 1917-1941
00:35:04 1.6 World War II
00:39:05 1.7 Wartime violation of Italian-American civil liberties
00:42:20 1.8 Post-World War II period
00:48:37 1.9 Close of the twentieth century
00:51:49 2 Politics
00:55:57 3 Business and economy
00:56:58 3.1 Workers
00:58:50 3.2 Women
01:04:17 4 Culture
01:07:10 4.1 Literature
01:13:06 4.2 Religion
01:16:56 4.2.1 Italian Jews
01:20:04 4.3 Education
01:21:23 4.4 Language
01:27:55 4.5 Newspapers
01:32:17 4.6 Folklore
01:34:15 5 Discrimination and stereotyping
01:40:52 6 Communities
01:43:01 6.1 New York City
01:46:25 6.2 Philadelphia
01:49:15 6.3 Boston
01:50:19 6.4 Newark
01:52:12 6.5 Saint Louis
01:52:21 6.6 Syracuse
01:53:42 6.7 Providence
01:54:34 6.8 Chicago
01:56:57 6.9 Cleveland
01:58:41 6.10 Milwaukee
01:59:39 6.11 Ybor City
02:00:57 6.12 Birmingham
02:01:39 6.13 San Francisco
02:02:10 6.14 Los Angeles
02:03:29 6.15 San Diego
02:04:43 7 Demographics
02:10:14 7.1 U.S. States with over 10% people of Italian ancestry
02:10:48 7.2 U.S. Communities with the most residents of Italian ancestry
02:13:05 8 Notable people
02:13:14 9 See also
02:13:55 10 References and notes
02:14:05 11 Bibliography
02:14:14 12 External links
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Italian Americans (Italian: italoamericani or italo-americani [ˌitalo.ameriˈkaːni]) are an ethnic group consisting of Americans who have ancestry from Italy. Italian Americans are the seventh largest Census-reported ethnic group in the United States (which includes American ethnicity, an ethnonym used by many in the United States; overall, Italian Americans rank seventh, behind German American, African American, Irish American, Mexican American, English American, and American).About 5.5 million Italians immigrated to the United States from 1820 to 2004. By 1870, there were less than 25,000 Italian immigrants in America, many of them Northern Italian refugees from the wars that accompanied the Risorgimento—the struggle for Italian unification and independence from foreign rule. Immigration began to increase during the 1870s, when more than twice as many Italians immigrated (1870–79: 46,296) than during the five previous decades combined (1820–69: 22,627). The 1870s were followed by the greatest surge of immigration, which occurred between 1880 and 1914 and brought more than 4 million Italians to the United States, the great majority being from Southern Italy and Sicily, with most having agrarian backgrounds. This period of large scale immigration ended abruptly with the onset of the First World War in 1914 and, except for one year (1922), never fully resumed.
Further immigration was greatly limited by several laws Congress passed in the 1920s.Approximately 84% of the Italian immigrants came from the former Kingdom of the Two Sicilies. This was the poorest and least developed part of Italy, still largely rural and agricultural, where much of the populace had been impoverished by centuries of foreign misrule, and an oppressive taxation system imposed after Italian unification in 1861. After unification, the Italian government initially encouraged emigration to relieve economic pressures in the South. After the American Civil War, which resulted in over a half million killed or wounded, immigrant workers were recruited from Italy and elsewhere to fill the labor shortage caused by the war. In the United States, most Italians began their new lives as manual laborers in Eastern cities, mining camps and in agriculture.
The descendants of the Italian immigrants gradually rose from a lower economic class in the first generation to a level comparable to the national average by 1970. The Italian community has often been characterized by strong ties to family, the Roma ...
Auburn Coach Wife Kristi Malzahn Agrees with Match & eHarmony: Men are Jerks
My advice is this: Settle! That's right. Don't worry about passion or intense connection. Don't nix a guy based on his annoying habit of yelling Bravo! in movie theaters. Overlook his halitosis or abysmal sense of aesthetics. Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year. (It's hard to maintain that level of zing when the conversation morphs into discussions about who's changing the diapers or balancing the checkbook.)
Obviously, I wasn't always an advocate of settling. In fact, it took not settling to make me realize that settling is the better option, and even though settling is a rampant phenomenon, talking about it in a positive light makes people profoundly uncomfortable. Whenever I make the case for settling, people look at me with creased brows of disapproval or frowns of disappointment, the way a child might look at an older sibling who just informed her that Jerry's Kids aren't going to walk, even if you send them money. It's not only politically incorrect to get behind settling, it's downright un-American. Our culture tells us to keep our eyes on the prize (while our mothers, who know better, tell us not to be so picky), and the theme of holding out for true love (whatever that is—look at the divorce rate) permeates our collective mentality.
Even situation comedies, starting in the 1970s with The Mary Tyler Moore Show and going all the way to Friends, feature endearing single women in the dating trenches, and there's supposed to be something romantic and even heroic about their search for true love. Of course, the crucial difference is that, whereas the earlier series begins after Mary has been jilted by her fiancé, the more modern-day Friends opens as Rachel Green leaves her nice-guy orthodontist fiancé at the altar simply because she isn't feeling it. But either way, in episode after episode, as both women continue to be unlucky in love, settling starts to look pretty darn appealing. Mary is supposed to be contentedly independent and fulfilled by her newsroom family, but in fact her life seems lonely. Are we to assume that at the end of the series, Mary, by then in her late 30s, found her soul mate after the lights in the newsroom went out and her work family was disbanded? If her experience was anything like mine or that of my single friends, it's unlikely.
And while Rachel and her supposed soul mate, Ross, finally get together (for the umpteenth time) in the finale of Friends, do we feel confident that she'll be happier with Ross than she would have been had she settled down with Barry, the orthodontist, 10 years earlier? She and Ross have passion but have never had long-term stability, and the fireworks she experiences with him but not with Barry might actually turn out to be a liability, given how many times their relationship has already gone up in flames. It's equally questionable whether Sex and the City's Carrie Bradshaw, who cheated on her kindhearted and generous boyfriend, Aidan, only to end up with the more exciting but self-absorbed Mr. Big, will be better off in the framework of marriage and family. (Some time after the breakup, when Carrie ran into Aidan on the street, he was carrying his infant in a Baby Björn. Can anyone imagine Mr. Big walking around with a Björn?)